I have been in a situation where my girlfriend wanted to have sex but I dodn't so we broke up. Did I do the right thing?
Yes. If your girlfriend wanted to have sex but you didn't, and she didn't accept that, you made the right choice.
You don't owe anyone sex. Not wanting to is enough.
You both wanted different things, and that's not your fault. You were honest about what you wanted, and that took guts.
A lot of people feel pressure to always want sex, as if saying no is weird or means something is wrong with you. That's rubbish. Plenty of people aren't ready, and that's completely normal.
If she broke up with you because you said no, she wasn't the right person.
Breakups are hard even when you know you made the right decision. But you stood up for what you were comfortable with.
Yes, you did the right thing. You do not owe anyone sex. Not wanting to is enough.
You both wanted different things and that is not your fault. You were honest about what you were comfortable with. That took courage.
A lot of people feel pressure to always want sex, as if saying no is weird. It is not. Plenty of people are not ready, and that is completely normal.
If she broke up with you because you said no, she was not the right person for you.
Breakups are hard even when you know you made the right choice. But you stood up for yourself.
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