Can you have an STI if you haven't had sex?
Yes, it is possible in some cases, though it's uncommon.
Most are passed through sexual contact, which includes , vaginal sex, and . But some can be transmitted in other ways too.
() can be passed through kissing. If someone with a cold sore on their mouth performs oral sex, they can pass herpes to their partner's genitals. You might not even realise a cold sore is an STI, but it's caused by the same type of virus.
(human papillomavirus) can be passed through skin-to-skin contact in the genital area, which doesn't necessarily involve penetrative sex.
Some infections like and can be passed from a mother to her baby during birth.
It's also worth thinking about what "had sex" means to you. If you've had oral sex or intimate skin-to-skin contact but don't consider that "sex," you could still have been exposed to an STI without realising it.
If you're worried, getting tested is easy, free, and confidential at any .
Yes, it is possible to have an even if you have not had sex, though it is not common.
are caused by the virus. They can be passed on through kissing. If someone with a cold sore gives , they can pass herpes to someone's genitals.
can be passed through skin touching skin in the genital area, without full sex happening.
Some infections like can be passed from a mother to her baby during birth.
It also depends on what you count as sex. If you have had oral sex or close genital contact, you could have been exposed to an STI without realising.
If you are worried, getting tested is free and private at any .
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